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For The Conscious Professional March 15, 2006

In This Issue

A False Sense of Love By Yolanda Johnson

Sanya D. Hudson Payne with James Lisbon

Juneteenth Literary Expo

Are You Free-By Monique Bruner

The Cleo Robinson Dance Ensemble-By Monque Bruner

ASPICOMM Self Publishing Symposium-By Heather Covington/Disilgold

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A False Sense of Love By Yolanda Johnson

I Gotta Go, I Gotta Leave "so please don’t make it hard for me. I’ve gave enough, I’m tired of love, I gotta let it go.” Most of us know these lyrics from R&B singer Vivian Green smash hit. She sings about giving all she has for the wrong reasons and to the wrong person. I had to sit here for a moment and listen to the song and go over the lyrics a few times. When love is gone; its gone and there is nothing that can be done. So then why, oh why, do we try to hang on to something that wasn’t destined to be? Only to have what was once love, or the deception of love turn into bitterness, anger and if I may, derangement; if that is a word. LaQuisha Hart put on my heart to write this particular piece. If you live in the Dallas Fort Worth area, then you are well educated on just who Ms. Hart is. On March 5th, LaQuisha’s ex-boyfriend “allegedly” beat her beyond recognition. LaQuisha and Nathan Green dated for six years and it is unclear if LaQuisha had broken it off with Mr. Green or not, but the deal was sealed when Nathan kicked in her door and beat her while she was on the phone with 911. It was clear on the 911 tapes as LaQuisha called in, at first calm, saying that Nathan was banging at her front door and threatening to break it down. You could also hear on the 911 tape when Nathan succeeded in breaking down that very door and calmness turned to hysteria as LaQuisha screamed for her life, while her boyfriend violated her. In addition, the Dallas Police Department is investigating and being investigated for their effortless attempt at responding to LaQuisha’s cries, but that is another story for another day. Nathan then forced LaQuisha in a car and took her to another location where he “allegedly” beat her for two hours straight according to his victim. She finally escaped to a Williams Chicken restaurant where a worker there called police. It appears that is not the first time Mr. Green has laid hands on her. LaQuisha stated to news reporters that she had broken up with him several times but was too “in love with him and went back”. Umm no baby, that is not love. What Nathan and LaQuisha have or had are the results of two worlds colliding. The two worlds are called fear and control. LaQuisha is not alone. Many women are currently in relationships where they disguise, cover up, or excuse their situations as love. Not too many things baffle me, well several forms of ignorance does, but I do find it hard to understand why when a person says “its over”, and the other person involved turns into a raving lunatic. When the loving is gone, both parties need to leave; move on. Personally, I would never want anyone who didn’t want me. So when LaQuisha told Nathan she wanted to leave, or however she put it to the brother, he should have just left and moved on. You know the old saying, “there are plenty of fish in the sea.” Or as several brothers put it, “*bleep* comes a dime a dozen”. So, besides the fact that a lot of men, OR women for that matter, can’t take rejection well, why do they do something so stupid that can negatively affect the rest of their lives? Women we aren’t totally free of guilt. Well I am, because all you have to do is tell me once and I wouldn’t even leave a Dear John letter. Like Tamia says, “ So long, it means I’m gone”. You’ll never have to worry about me slicing your tires or confronting you. But hey that’s just me. When a break happens, both parties need to step back, take some time to heal and work on themselves and move on. The only thing sadder than the fact that this man felt the need to beat this young lady, who is also the mother of his child, is that he is now facing prison time. Had he killed her, he’d be facing murder charges. Why would one risk his, or her, own life to take another one? Why not think about the consequences before instead of after? At what point is enough, enough? I pray that LaQuisha finds the strength to move on and heal, not only for the sake of her young child, but also for her own safety. Surviving an abusive relationship does not come without scars; physical or emotional. In some cases, the woman, or the man will find it hard to ever love again, OR even worse, they will find themselves back in the same types of relationship because abuse is the only thing they have to equate with love. I also pray that LaQuisha takes time for her and finds her real self worth and realizes that it is in her and not a man or anything else for that matter but God. For if she comes to this realization, she will be able to spot a knuckle head from far away and prevent her past from becoming her future. Ladies and Gentlemen, no one can define you, but YOU. And the abuser will only do to you what you allow them to do to you. Take control of your life, for you are fearfully and wonderfully made in God’s image and if you don’t let them, no one can take that from you. Lets star now with an uprising of self- loving and life respecting sons and daughters. I say this because from the looks of it now, from this window of the world that I’m looking from, our future is on a straight path of destruction. The time is now, if we are going to make a difference.

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Happy Women's History Month!

I’ll make this short and sweet. God Bless to all, I miss you all and I can’t wait to get back to work full time. Give a round of applause to James for holding it down while a sistah is down and out! I guess this is not a good time to ask for a raise huh? LOL (as if I’m getting paid at all). But on the serious tip (shoot I am serious). Until next time, God bless to one and all! And let’s work a little harder on that thing we call “Love”. ~~Yolanda, Your Online Editor


  • Sanya D. Hudson Payne with James Lisbon
  • Ms. Hudson-Payne was born and raised in Brooklyn, New York. At the tender age of seven she began using writing as a therapeutic remedy whenever spoken words weren’t enough to quell the “growing pains” many of us have experienced from childhood to adulthood. As a way to share her whimsical gift of writing with the rest of the world, she infuses humor, imagery, compassion, creativity and emotional depth, so readers can take their minds on a mystical journey that provides mental stimulation and nourishment for the soul. Please sit back and enjoy this interview. James Lisbon: Why did you choose to write about love? Sanya D. Hudson Payne: Many people, men and women, believe love is something they will never experience. We as a society are becoming comfortable with the notion that if we are single, then so be it. I wrote the book, The Seasons of Love, as a testament to love's tenacity and necessity in today's day and age. As the story unfolds, readers will be yearning for a simple kiss, touch, or smile from a person they love, dream of loving, or a love that was lost. My book will serve as a reminder that even though we are constantly getting images of love being taboo, love in its different seasons can remind us of how it felt to be loved when we were children, unconditional and transcending time. Also, in my opinion, the majority of the books I have read dealing with relationships either show two people falling in love and then conflict comes and the relationship is over. Or, it shows two people falling in love and staying in love without encountering any problems. I wanted to show how love fosters emotional growth and how a crisis can be used as a stepping stone to move forward. That's deep. Why did you make the transition from Brooklyn to Florida? I moved from Brooklyn to Florida because I knew I wanted to see progression in my life. I needed to be in a place that provided me with a sense of serenity so I could gather my thoughts. After living in NY, I felt like I couldn't hear my inner spirit talking to me. All I kept hearing was the noise New Yorkers experience on a daily basis. Noise we become immune to over time. Sometimes a person has to take a step back and reflect in order to take many steps forward. Peace and quiet is a rarity in NY, I concur. Are you nervous about upcoming book signings and tours? Yes, but that is a good thing. Whenever I am nervous it drives me to do my best. I've come too far to be defeated. And, I'm just getting started. There is still so much more I would like to do in my lifetime. I hear you! Definitely keep us abreast when you come back home to the Big Apple. Are Taylor and Brandon fictional or do they resemble people you know or have known in the past? The characters are fictional, but there are a few personal experiences sprinkled throughout the book. What community or educational programs are you affiliated with? I am presently the sponsor of an organization named A.C.E.S which stands for Accepting Challenges Experiencing Success. This organization is for high school students who have a commitment to the betterment and upliftment of their communities. I am also the founder of a women's group called Sistah Circle. The purpose of this club is to empower, encourage, and educate women on issues that affect us in today's day and age. I chose to be affiliated with both organizations because it is community service oriented. I believe I am blessed with the tools to help those who can not do it by themselves. I have had many positive role models in my life and I know it is my duty to give back. I try to lead by example and positivity. I live by the motto, "You may be the only bible someone else gets a chance to read." That's great. It is so important that we lend ourselves to our young people. Does your education and career ooze into the characters of my book? Not my career as a teacher doesn't, but definitely my education in psychology. My degree in psychology has helped me understand the complexities of people in a more profound way. Since my book, The Seasons of Love contains explicit nature, I cannot attribute any of that to my teaching career. Teachers are often looked upon as stoic, rigid, and lacking humor. My book shows another side of teachers. It shows we should not be stereotyped and pigeon-holed into one category. We love, laugh, and are entering the profession at much younger ages. We are just as multi-faceted as the next person. Indeed. How long did it take to complete the book? I began writing in September 2004 and finished in May 2005. So, it took me 8 months to write it. Do you think erotic is a must for todays new author? No. I think it is a reality. There are many topics writers can choose from. I think a writer should choose a topic that will send a message to society. Yes I do have explicit love scenes in my book, but I think love is the most beautiful thing in the world and it's also what is missing and yet desperately needed. When I wrote The Seasons of Love, mentally and physically, I was in a very low place. I had just moved to Florida and one month later was devastated by Hurricane Ivan. I lost almost everything and was basically homeless. I was upset over losing some of my material possessions as any person would be, but I mostly upset because I lost a lot of of personal items like my daughter's baby pictures and other mementos. Every person I loved was back home in New York. I felt emotionless and void of love. I blocked myself off from giving love and receiving it because I couldn't believe I was dealing with such a tragedy. Although I was in a chaotic state, I knew I had to rebuild mentally. spiritually, and physically. So, I decided to create the world I wanted to bring in existence for myself. I needed to believe that I could feel again. While writing my book I was able to forget about my present condition and get back to what I always knew I could have. I was able to explore the various temperaments of love and that strengthened my healing process. Wow. I am very sorry to hear that but I am glad to see you have persevered. Could parents use your book as a guiding tool for their of-age children? Definitely! The Seasons of Love is a blueprint for the way love should be. It shows men and women how to be respectful, nurturing, honest, passionate, compassionate, trustworthy, reliable, and emotionally supportive to one another. Thanks for your time-it is definitely appreciated!

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  • Juneteenth Literary Expo
  • Ralph Ellison Library and Families First Foundation will host the first JUNETEENTH LITERARY EXPO during Oklahoma City’s 20th Juneteenth Celebration. We are looking for African American Authors to sale and sign their books as well as share their publishing experience. The event will be held at: Ralph Ellison Library - Oklahoma City, OK Saturday, June 17th, 2006 10:00 a.m. – 2:00 p.m. The cost of involvement is $25 fee and 3 copies of your book. In order to ensure statewide distribution with our library system your information must be received before March 31, 2006. Those who send registration after the March 31st deadline will have to pay a late fee of $15 (total registration of $40) and we will make every effort to include them in promotional materials. Please email Monique Bruner directly at deltareviewer@yahoo.com before sending payment and/or books. Payment can be made via Paypal (to deltareviwer@yahoo.com) and books can be sent to the following address: Families First Foundation JUNETEENTH LITERARY EXPO 6409 Braniff Dr. Oklahoma City, OK 73105 If you have any questions or need additional information, please call Monique Bruner at (405) 615- 6711 or email at deltareviewer@yahoo.com. Thank you in advance for your support. There is power in the word!

  • Are You Free-By Monique Bruner
  • ARE YOU FREE? Do you know someone that has been sexually abused? Do you know someone addicted to drugs? Do you know children in a difficult living environment? Is your local school district in turmoil? Do you have trouble maintaining personal relationships? If you answered yes to one or more of these questions then you may not be FOREVER FREE. You may not be FREE of past hurts and generational bondage of sexual abuse and drug addiction. Do You Want To Be FOREVER FREE? Dr. Gayle Rogers spent the last four years researching the effects that sexual abuse and drug addiction has on African American females and the relationships that she forms. Once Dr. Rogers received her doctorate degree she heard the call from God to turn her dissertation into a readable non- fiction book to assist men and women in being FREE. In addition to her book, Healing the Traumatized Soul, Dr. Rogers is in the process of developing a workbook to help people process the trauma, release the pain, and regain the self-respect/self-esteem that they deserve. But What Does Research Say about Sexual Abuse and Drug Addiction?

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  • The Cleo Robinson Dance Ensemble-By Monque Bruner
  • Recently the Cleo Parker Robinson Dance Ensemble performed in my area and they were AMAZING! The choreography, music, original costume design and talent were awe-inspiring. Cleo Parker Robinson Dance (CPRD) began as a grass roots organization in 1970. Today CPRD is a non-profit organization serving the community with its year round dance school, serving 350 students; Season of Schools program that works in corporation with Denver Public School District; International Summer Dance Institute which hosts master teachers from around the world; Project Self Discovery which is a grant program used as an alternative to substance abuse and gang violence; The Cleo Parker Robinson Dance Theatre, a renovated 24,000 square foot theatre located in Downtown Denver. If you travel to the Denver area check them out or if you are need of entertainment for your next cultural event check to see if they are available.

    Cleo Parker Dance
  • ASPICOMM Self Publishing Symposium-By Heather Covington/Disilgold
  • THE 1st ASPICOMM SELF PUBLISHING SYMPOSIUM & 1ST S’INDIE AWARDS PRODUCED BY RENEE FLAGLER DURING WOMEN’S HISTORY MONTH IS A LITERARY SUCCESS! Courtesy of www. Disilgold.com Where were the next top self-published authors from around the nation during Women’s History Month like Marc Lacy; author of (The Looking Heart & Reflux CD), Rodney E. Daniels (Only God Can Create a Woman), Sherry Brantley (Best of Friends), Shirley Green (God Within a Shadow), Vernelle Edwards (Missionary) James Nash (Truth Told), Naomi Douglas Davis (Write 1.com), Mel Hopkins (Sleeping With the D-Man), C. Renee West (Caught in the Struggle), Joan Robertson (In the Winter of Her Season), Sherry Brantley (Choices the Power Within You), Leon Dickerson (Dr. Dickerson, His Dissertation, and God), Shirley Green (God Within The Shadow), Vernelle Edwards (Missionary) and Lonetta M. Taylor (Fia and the Buttefly) on March 12, 2006 from 8:00am- 5:00pm? These next happening authors fast on their way to the top of the African- American literary scene as many guests got to know about their lives and stories one- by- one were at The 1st Aspicomm Self- Publishing Symposium and S’Indie Awards, held at the monumental and historical Schomberg Center of Research in Black Culture and founded and produced by Ms. Renee Flagler (Aspicomm.com); Best Selling Essence Author of Mountain High, Valley Low and founder of Futures by Design; a non profit organization with “a mission to mentor and coach at risk teens for brighter futures.” Monumental history was made on this day! The Aspicomm S’Indie Award winners were selected with much anticipation, nervousness and excitement in the air. Sherry Brantley; author of Best of Friends won for Best Fiction Novelist, Kevin Wayne Johnson; author of Give God the Glory (not present) won for Best Non-Fiction, Marc Lacy; author of The Looking Heart won for Best Poet of the Year, Joan Robertson won for Best Spiritual/ Inspirational Novel, Lonnetta M. Taylor; author of Fia and the Butterfly won for Best Children’s Book and Shirley Green; author of God Within the Shadow won for Best Cover. Heather Covington (President of the YOUnity Guild of America; editor-in-chief of Disilgold Soul Literary Review (Disilgold.com), EMCEE and judge of self- publishing contest, was awarded with the Aspicomm Trailblazer Award of Excellence for outstanding achievement in publishing, media, marketing and support of the literary community. The self-published authors were asked to introduce themselves and share insight about their books.

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